What are you asking from life?
I want to you to press pause on your life for a brief moment while you read this blog post, and ask yourself this pertinent question… “What are you asking from life?”
Are you relentless with what you want from your life and what you want to get out of it… or are you merely okay with what it’s handing you. Are you accepting your life the way it is merely because you don’t know how to get something better?
Maybe you’re like millions of others who want so much more out of life, but they just don’t understand how to get it, and therefore you begrudgingly accept whatever life seems to be giving you… hoping that one day things will look different for you.
I want you to ponder that question, and truly answer it for yourself. What are you asking of from life?
Because if you’re asking life for meager things, you’re going to get meager results. But if you’re making large demands of life, and you won’t settle until you get them, you will undoubtedly be making large gains in your life to become more.
Life gives us what we ask for.
You may not understand that just yet, but let me break it down for you.
I want to tell you about a poem I read in Napoleon Hill’s book Think And Grow Rich. This poem struck me when I first read it, because I knew that the concept was something I already believed and inherently understood, and yet seeing the words so clearly for the first time made a profound impact on me.
The poem is called “I Bargained With Life For A Penny” by Jessie B. Rittenhouse, and it goes as follows:
I bargained with life for a penny, and life would pay no more,
however I begged at evening, when I counted my scanty store.
For life is a just employer, he gives you what you ask,
but once you have set the wages, why you must bear the task.
I worked for a menial’s hire, only to learn dismayed,
than any wage I had asked of life, life would have willingly paid.
Life will pay you whatever you ask. This concept is both financial and spiritual, mental and physical. Whatever you set your mind on, and demand of both yourself and life, you will end up with. Whatever you are too timid to ask of from life, you will never get.
I had never seen this concept laid out so clearly as it was before me now, and I had to write it down for myself to ponder and reflect on. These words have given me much motivation and courage in my life to do the things I want and to achieve the things I desire. I hope that the likewise inspire you.
You see this concept all over the world, of getting what we ask of life. If you merely want to be average, you can be average. If you want to simply skate by in life, you can do it. And that idea is easy enough for us to believe. But what about if you want to be successful? Those who want to be highly successful can be, by simply demanding it from life. They will not accept any less from themselves, and so they ask a great wage from life. They ask to be great, and they demand it from themselves every day, and sure enough, those are the people who rise to great heights in life and accomplish all that they set out too.
At the end of the day this all comes down to a question of self worth. We all ask of life a wage equal to our perceived self worth. If you believe that you have immense value, and you see yourself for WHO YOU WANT TO BE, and WHO YOU WILL BE, not just for WHO YOU APPEAR TO BE NOW, then you will have no problem asking life for a wage equal to your ambitions.
But if you have a hard time believing you are valuable, you have low self esteem, low self-worth, you lack pride in yourself, and you lack vision of your future, you will simply ask life for whatever it will give you. This is not humility, this is self deprecation and self deprivation.
If you are struggling for success in your life, you’ve got to first focus on building up your self worth. Understand your intrinsic value, your limitless power to learn and grow and change. Understand your God-given ability to live up to your Full Potential. And set your sights on a beautiful future. Understand and define for yourself what you want your life to look like, and then begin to ask life for more than it is giving you.
And what of those of us who have asked too little from life? Are we truly stuck, as the poem states, to work for a menial’s hire? The answer is certainly not. We must understand that everything in life is a season. We have seasons for each task in life that we undertake, and you may be working through a season for a low wage, but the beauty is that if you acknowledge you are worth more, you can always finish your current task and demand much from life after. You do have to find your way through the season though. You’ve set a “wage” with life for your current situation, and things can’t change until you change. Finish your current tasks, because much like in the workplace you cannot change the agreement midway through a project. But if you would learn your worth, finish your current tasks, find your way through your current season, and then bring all of your full potential and confidence to the table, you can ask any wage of life you please.
Don’t get caught in a rut always asking too little from life, always believing you aren’t good enough. Be good enough. Be better. Begin to demand excellence from yourself and soon you will see that you indeed ARE Excellent.
Always do a higher level of work than you are being paid for. When you go above and beyond, and exceed all expectations, life has no choice but to rise and meet you at your higher level. Nature abhors a vacuum, and so if you are exceeding far above and beyond what you are being compensated for, life will eventually rise to compensate you fairly. And if you continue to demand excellence from yourself, and perform at higher and higher levels of confidence and competence, you will be in a progressive climb higher and higher.
This is how you get what you want from life. Stop asking too little. Stop believing you aren’t worth it. Stop not being worth it! Go make more of yourself and excel so that you can ask life for any wage you desire.
One last thing to be said… How many of us are dreamers? How many of us hope to become millionaires one day, and wish and want and hope that our lives will be good, and yet never actually do anything to set that in motion? Our hopes and dreams feel like a far off destination, and we simply “hope” to arrive there someday. That’s no way to live. Those who achieve their dreams are they who define exactly what they want, and chart a course to get there. They don’t merely think of these things with longing, they desire them with a vibrant fire, and they demand them from their lives. They WILL become these things they want, because they tell Life that they will have them. If we never ask them of life, then life is under no obligation to provide them. If we keep them hopes and dreams, then that is exactly what they will stay. But if we turn them into demands, then they will soon become realities for us.
This is how you must live your life if you wish to be successful and if you wish to achieve your goals. You must turn your dreams into destinations, you hopes into plans, and your desires into demands. Ask much of life and life will give you much!